It was a rainy evening in late September when we first laid eyes on each other. We were both in St. Louis, Missouri attending the 2014 UPCI General Conference. After a powerful service one evening, we began to walk aimlessly with a group of mutual friends to a restaurant that was—to our dismay—already closed. As we all stood out on the street corner, staring at the darkened windows in disbelief, suddenly a torrential downpour came out of nowhere! We were finally able to find shelter inside a random Sushi place, but by that time we were all completely soaked.
The night was unforgettable to say the least. As we sat there shivering, happy as could be, eating our sushi, we could have never imagined that just three years later we would stand together at an altar and say, “I do.” … Read More »
Dr. James Dobson calls the age between sixteen (16) and twenty-six (26) years the “decision decade” because most of the decisions made during this time will set the course for the rest of a student’s life. A major portion of the decisions made during this time have to do with the subject of dating and interaction with the opposite sex. In
It was tough for me, at first, as a youth pastor to give clear instructions from God’s Word on the topic of dating to our youth group. The truth is the Bible does not give a solid “position” on dating. It is one of the many activities the Bible does not talk specifically about. However, the Bible does talk about character, values, and principles that people who follow Christ should do.
The questions we should be asking ourselves when it comes to dating should be, “What are you becoming in your dating? What fruit is being produced from your dating relationships for you and the people you date? How are you treating them and vice versa? What are you learning from dating? In all reality, the biblical position on dating has much more to do with the kind of person you … Read More »
They were in existence when your parents, grandparents, youth pastors, and pastors went to middle school and high school. The word itself tends to carry a negative connotation in the field of research and especially in youth-focused sermons. So what do social “cliques” have to do with student relationships? EVERYTHING! Cliques have been, are, and will continue to be a dominant and influential part of our lives, helping to shape what we become.
In Roger E. Hernandez’s book, Teens & Relationships, he describes how studies show students are likely to spend twice as much time with peers as with their parents. He explains cliques can be both good and bad. They can give teens a sense of security and community. Students who are excluded from cliques risk feeling depressed and resentful. Some students avoid cliques all together, desiring to define … Read More »
The month of February is widely popular for Valentine’s Day, the 14th day of the month, and has a strong romantic association. With respect to this day, this month’s article is devoted to dating relationships. It is perhaps one of the most exciting and frightening, joyous and frustrating kinds of relationships an individual will have. The dating relationship can potentially lead to one of your most important decisions in life – choosing a mate.
There are many views on what the correct “biblical approach” to dating should be, ranging from the conservative to the fairly more relaxed stance. The purpose of this month’s article is not to give platform to any specific viewpoint or present the most current research but rather provide some food for thought as I’m sure most readers are actively engaged in, or desire to be engaged in … Read More »